Going back in time, I ponder over the last hour. I begin by reading ‘If on a Winter’s Night a Traveller’ because that’s what I am reading presently. At the back of my mind, I’m thinking about what an overrated book ‘Paper Towns’ is. After 18 minutes gone and I know it’s 18 and not 20 or 25 because I am wearing a digital watch. So it is 18 minutes 31 seconds precisely. I realise I’m on page 7. Bam! That’s where I started. I’ve read this sentence more than a dozen times now.
I am the man who comes and goes between the bar and the telephone booth. Or, rather: that man is called “I” and you know nothing else about him, just as this station is called only “station” and beyond it there exists nothing except the unanswered signal of a telephone ringing in a dark room of a distant city.
I read it once more to see if it means anything different. Nothing. I must be out of my mind. Lacking interest instantly, I shut the book. Stare at its cover for few seconds; the title with its letters tumbling over makes no sense either.
It doesn’t take a detective’s mind to figure that I am in no mood to read, which to my surprise, I don’t find surprising. I’m suddenly gripped with an urge to scribble down things. Picking up a pen, I search for my diary. One word down and my mind goes – where’s my black pen? I start hunting for my black pen because that’s who I am – The Black Ink Writer. When I’ve found the pen, I don’t want to write anymore. Half-fuming, half-exhausted, I am at a loss of things to do.
For no particular reason, I decide to call mum. But mum’s inquisitive as ever; she’ll ask exactly what I don’t want to talk about – life. Life that’s so screwed up. Shrinking a bit over the oddity of the situation, I feel terribly lonely.
I want to go hide under a rock. Fly off a roof and disappear in thin air. I bite hard into my knuckles and then peer at the bite marks. The imprints are just as obscure as are my thoughts. Like the dreams that ring a bell, but are hazy in the mind. Caffeine, I’ve heard, sets mood right. So I brew a cup of dark coffee. Sugarless. Dark. Just how I like. No sooner I’ve poured myself a cup, I let it rest on the table. And soon forget about it.
A rush of breeze with a whiff of freshly baked bread ushers in. I peek out the window, staring into nothingness. Minutes pass unnoticed. Oblivion is bliss. A loud call breaks the reverie. Men scurry to the mosque, like ants rushing to a mound of sweet.
With a blank mind and an empty satchel, I leave the house.
Indecision is deeply rooted in our inability to conclude. The reluctance to accept the obvious outcomes of circumstances. But courtesy of these indecisive moments, even the most trivial matters become cumbersome.
I’d love to hear about your moments of indecision. What do you do? Are you also just as lost? Do write to me.
-Asha Seth
Yes Asha, I feel quite lost when I’m indecisive. Especially about matters of consequence, like romance or setting boundaries with my now grown children. I pray for help with making these important decisions, and that always helps to an extent.
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Delighted to know your take and way out in such moments. 🤓
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❤
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I could completely relate with you. Rereading the same line but actually being lost in your own world. Happens sometimes and it’s irritating when you know you are a reader but the book just can’t keep you hooked because your mind obviously has a lot going on. Great post. Walking for at least twenty minutes is my therapy! 🙂
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Walking or cycling has helped me most times. And I take your word and would resort to these in my future moments of indecision. Sheth. 🙂
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Everytime I write a poem and think about sharing it, there is indecision which shows its head! Should I or should I not, because what I share comes from the heart, and might touch someone, and I hope not in a negative way. What I try to share is what my spirit has experience in this life whether with the One whom God chose for me to love for life, or for the One (God) who first loved me. We make what is hidden within become an open book. You are such a great and awesome writer Asha, you inspire me always and you also inspire many happy spiritual smiles! Keep writing and sharing your gems my sister!
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Pleased to read your thoughts, Wendell. I think twice even before publishing a comment. That’s just deeply indecision is embedded in our lives. 😋
Howve you been, buddy?
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oh it happens all the time……..i usually watch movies…….or eat junk food….. 🙂 🙂
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I’m sure binge eating helps some. I, on the contrary, tend to lose the appetite. 😛
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i wish that happened with me……i could always be slimmer…… 🙂 🙂
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Haha! Only if wishes were horses…
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if only!
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It happens many times, not just one! Like you I too try everything. Call my bestie or sis and then I find I’m not even listening to them half of the time….solution varies as sometimes its music other times sleeping or watching TV but to be true its never easy for me…
You penned it so well I guess this is what helps us sometimes.
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I agree with you, Meenakshi. Sometimes, so much as dreaming of good times helps, sometimes nothing in the world does. 🙂
I found your comment so late. Apologies for the delay in response.
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Its ik no need to apologize 🙂
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You’re kind. 🙂
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Mostly i walk out, romance some greens, date heat & sunlight, come back with the necessary ‘Mojo’, sometimes i remember Oscar Wilde’s quote ‘Be yourself; everyone else is already taken’ 😉
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That’s a powerful quote, one I must keep going back to time and again.
Walking away, is a perfect escape. I love that too.
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And yes..Your Facebook problem still prevails. 😦
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I couldn’t find you. 😦 What do we do?
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You enable the friend request option on your profile. Rest I will do. 😀
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Done that deja!
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And I have also sent you the request. Accept it now.😄
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I had already read this writing of yours through Twitter but held onto my comment for some reason (which even I don’t know). See ‘Indecision’ lies even in commenting.
But what I do in most of the cases of Indecision is ‘Sleep’. An escape from all the problems, temporarily. 😀
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It seemed I’m witnessing the moments you’ve described. Moments of indecision do occur to me, I rather find it easier to back in form by dozing off. It really helps… 😀
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I like the idea of dozing off. If only I could keep the lingering thoughts at bay. Worth a try nonetheless!
How do you do, Mani? Happy to see you around.
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If you don’t overthink, you won’t be indecisive!
Try to go with the flow of life.
Weigh the pros and cons of each path if you are indeed in a dilemma.
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That’s the magic trick – Not to overthink! Thank you for contributing, Alok. Your perspective is an eye-opener.
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My pleasure!
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Thank you for sharing the word. 🙂
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Hi, Asha! I do 20 crunches, fast! to some fun upbeat music. Clears my mind and changes my direction immediately! XO!
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What an incredible idea that is, Maureen! I love working out. But running, more than indoors workout. So when I left the house, I may have hit the road in a pair of sneakers. 🙂
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I’d say just let yourself feel for an hour or so and then write a bit. Even if you don’t feel like it. It’s just my personal experience, but writing helps me figure out things that I just can’t without putting pen to paper.
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Most times, writing works for me to get out of such tricky situations, and sometimes even the pen fails me… 😛 Thanks, Rachael. Your thoughts matter. 🙂
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Life is filled with moments of indecision….eventually we get somewhere, even if it’s just the next moment…..
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Brilliant summing that is. Thank you. 🙂
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Ah the games the mind plays on us. I have a family situation that I must address yet the more I think about it the more frustrated I get, the more angry I get the more silent I become….
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That’s an always story with me, Jerry. So I guess you’ll be pleased to know you’re not just the one. XD
How have you been?
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I’m well . Still haven’t figured out when to deal with my family situation but I am well lol
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Don’t procrastinate. Just go at it head first. 😛
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Funny I was thinking about doing just that
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Although make sure you don’t run into a wall. Hope you know what I mean! 😛
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Oh yes for sure
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How goes the day?
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Ok good how about you?
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Good how about yours?
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Hahaha, I laughed at the moments and especially that man at the telephone booth. When I am indecisive I usually don’t do anything. I go out in the balcony play with joy a little (thus works only if he is interested.) and then come around. If still I don’t have anything decisive I leave it for the day. And do anything else. Doing something is good but making it worse won’t be good. 😅
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I miss having Alfey around. He’s my stress-buster. The quote is a part in the starting of the book. Thinking of it now, I feel it wouldn’t be wrong to guess that maybe Calvino was in a state of Indecision himself. 😛
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Hahaha. 😀
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😉
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My headphones and a book is all I need when I am flummoxed over certain issues. Headphones to shun people around me and a book to divert my mind from ludicrous things that keep twirling witin.
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Bravo! I need a pair of headphones immediately. 😛 Thank you, Prachi. 🙂
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Beautifully written. I identify with that rudderless feeling. Always a bit lost in the moment or trapped in a thought somewhere.
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Precisely, Jui. 🙂
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High-five😜I can very well relate to your indecisions. Be it an unwelcome writers block, or sudden mental block while reading. A very realistic post. Loved it.
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Oh! It’s such a relief to know I’m not alone. 😛
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Decision is a sharp knife that cuts clean and straight. ..Indecision a dull one that hacks and tears leaving ragged edges behind it . A wonderful thought by Gordon Graham
Whenever I come across such a situation where I can’t decide myself…first thing what I do is I don’t think so much about the issue …I just place my problems before my parents and ask for a solution as I trust them most …I think it’s better to speak with others whom we trust and love the most..other way till if it’s not so critical like Radhika Di I would prefer to listen to soothing music or watch a comedy film of Govinda.
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I find myself perennially lost with not an ounce of energy to tax my brain for some real thinking. So these ideas are fun engagements. Thank you. I’m not into Bollywood but most times Harry Potter, Kung Fu Panda or Despicable Me work the trick for me. 🙂
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I have shared my thoughts as per my age group 😊😊..anything wrong please correct me dear Asha …good evening
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Humble as ever, you are. Never stop to think to say just what you want to say. 😉
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I can relate this to a situation two years ago …when had not got enough merit in AIPMT exams nor in MHTCET medical exams on the other hand I got well qualified in the I IT JEE mains with 70 percentile score .I was really not knowing what to do…I felt like taking a gap …but my father told me if take a gap and not qualify with a good score? Have you thought about it ?
I just stayed silent …Looking at my silence my father suggested why waste one more year if you have qualified for admission in engineering course ….I just went with his decision and today I never regret it 😊
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Listening to some music or just sitting in a quiet place and sharing my fears, appreciations and thoughts with “HIM” helps me come to a decision.
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That’s a brilliant way to ward off the madness. I must say. Radhika 😄
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